Today one of my students tried to french kiss me, so… that was horrendous. This poor child, only 5 years old said “I always love you so much! I wanna see something.” I thought he was looking at my earrings. My students are the only people, I let into my personal space without thinking and I was so wrong. That child tried to get into my mouth and I had to remember not to overreact. I then had to be the adult who quietly explained to him that we don’t kiss that way and we only give hugs and high fives at school. I then had to sit down and ask if anyone tried to kiss him in that way. No on had.
I always feel awful when a child misunderstands a concept and then feels shame for trying to model after adults. It’s so frustrating. How difficult is it to talk to children? Explain the little things like, no frenching the teacher, or that we feel different kinds of love or you need to ask permission before touching someone, ask for a hug first, also no frenching the teacher.
I’m proud of the way the child reacted to the situation after it was fully explained to him. He now knows that he should ask before touching others. He now knows that we keep our mouths to ourselves at school and that kisses on the cheek are usually what families give to one another. His nana kisses him on the lips which is basic nana rights. He gets that! It turned out he’d secretly kissed one of my girls earlier in the week. Without prompting he went to her and apologized and asked her for a hug. I was so pleased.
This took all of 5 minutes.
- Don’t freak out
- Explain why it’s inappropriate
- Discuss alternatives and exceptions
- Carry on with your day.
Something like this or some other issue comes up every year.
Last year the big issue was my white girl students believing that the black girl students did not look pretty in white or with their hair in braids. I got that mess all sorted also.
I would love to compile a list of all the common- sense, human decency and hygiene lessons I’ve had to teach my class.